“One day it just clicks… You realize what’s important and what isn’t. You learn to care less about what other people think of you and more about what you think of yourself. You realize how far you’ve come and you remember when you thought things were such a mess that they’d never recover. And then you smile. You smile because you are truly proud of yourself and the person you’ve fought to become.” -Unknown
Many times we find ourselves dwelling on the negativity thats happening in our life.Why is it that we routinely expect the worst in our lives instead of the best? Sometimes I wonder if there is a special kink in our DNA that attracts us to negativity. When something is pestering you, you know that turning your mind off of it is easier said than done. In fact, research shows that when people are advised not to think about a specific topic, it makes it even harder to get that topic out of their minds. But, by revisiting negative thoughts over and over again in your head, also known as rumination, can be troublesome and detrimental and, in most cases be toxic to the mental health of an individual leading to chronic depression.We have to learn to train ourselves to overcome adversity and negativity and surround ourselves with those that make you feel better.
Many people would think its insurmountable to alter your mindset in order to avoid negativity. Change is hard. But, is it really hard? In other words, humans just stink at change. Nothing is impossible to do, change is doable, you just have to develop a strong, positive mindset that you are going to make a change. You have to be disciplined with yourself, as hard as it might sound, its doable. According to Steve Olsher, author of the New York Times best-seller What Is Your WHAT? Discover the One Amazing Thing You Were Born to Do. “before anything can change in your life, you have to shed light on it,” he says. “There has to be a moment when you take a hard look at the truth and contend with the fact it is no longer acceptable. You must be uncomfortable to make a change.” I couldn’t agree more with his words. Being uncomfortable goes a long way in personal development. Begin by being okay with discomfort and learn to stray away from the adversity and negativity that surrounds you. Get real with yourself and know you are going to make a change for the better.
“Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you” -Ralph Marston
“Don’t think about what can happen in a month. Don’t think about what can happen in a year. Just focus on the 24 hours in front of you and do what you can to get closer to where you want to be.” -unknown
Focus on what is happening now, in the present, instead of dwelling on what happened yesterday, a week ago, or what could happen tomorrow. Focusing on the present is key to finding happiness within. When we give all our attention to what happened yesterday and what could happen tomorrow we tend to miss all the moments that today has to offer. As mentioned by John Addison, “many people dwell on the past or live in a pipe-dream future. You have one today in your life, and when it’s over, it’s over. It’s up to you to cherish today, to smile, to make the most of this moment, this day, this opportunity to embrace your life.” He couldn’t have said it any better because so many individuals are approaching life and happiness in the wrong light.
Lastly, to sustain a joyful life, we have to learn how to use filters with our surrounding. Take Instagram for instance, before posting a picture we are given numerous filter options to make the picture appear “better” to us. Are you going to post a picture that you think looks bad? Probably no, you’re going to edit it until you are happy. So why would you choose to live with certain aspects in life that are making you unhappy? It’s the same concept, you have to filter your surroundings to make YOU happy.We have the power to choose who we allow in our life, information we take in, and how we picture our life to be. If you want happiness in life, think about treating it like a picture on Instagram before you post it.
“Be around the light bringers, the magic makers, the world shifters, the game shakers. They challenge you, break you open, uplift you and expand you. They don’t let you play small with your life. These heartbeats are your people. These people are your tribe” -Unknown
Overall, what it comes down to is, life is what you make of it. Find yourself enduring on endless smiles and laughter and nothing less. Life is too short to be nothing but happy because you only get one shot at life. Don’t live your life for anyone else. Have the confidence that you know who you are, what you want in life and filter out those who bring you down. Surround yourself with those that bring out only the best in you. Be the person you want to be for YOURSELF and no one else because at the end of the day all that matters is that you are happy.